ABOUT
THE AUTHOR
1977 born, Amit Gupta is sub-editor of Dainik Bhaskar, Chandigarh. He has written five books including three of them on childern and a novel in Hindi "Apna Apna Akash" and a play "Tottee Kariya". He has written hundreds of articles that have appeared in many newspapers and websites. [October 2001]
AUTHOR'S OTHER TITLES (4) Blank Canvas (Short Stories) A short story. [2,069 words] Duty And Dedication (Children) A children story. [499 words] The Truth (Non-Fiction) A non-fiction story. [1,033 words] The Wound (Short Stories) A short story. [815 words]
Gay Agony In India Amit Gupta
Gays here in India are no different like the gays any where in the world. The mentality, the pains, the emotions, struggles, desires and aspiration are all the same but for one reason and that is the freedom of expression and movements is simply pathetic here.
Men who like men used to gather at chic Delhi farmhouse parties until a year ago when a couple of violent incidents lead to injuries and police raids. Now the action has moved indoors to trendy, new restaurants like Soul Kitchen, which has exclusive gay nights every Thursday, nit to mention several existing bars where gays meet. The biggest meeting place, however, is in cyber sphere. The net has powered gay activity by bringing it in to every street corner cyber cafe and, of course, is to private homes. There are active gay message bords on many Indian sites, gay polls, gay e-zines, gay Agony Aunts and web sites with help lines run by Humrahi and Naz.
Let's unite all of us and take the cyber-bus to Hateless, Tolerant, Peaceville...
No more on the run
Find our place, in the sun
we didn't... but we can...and we will!
This verse on the home page of the web site GayBombay.com reflects the growing feeling among the community in India. City-specific web sites have significant traffic on dating and chat rooms. Some like DatingDesi.com have given a significant boost to gay activity with hundreds of men advertising for partners-often in explicit, detail, male-on-top details about their expectations.
The gays of India would not come out of their dark, secret hiding due to the tremendous societal and administrative pressures that looms large over their heads. The fear of being ridiculed, and ostracized haunts them forever, quite naturally to all the gays here is India and that is the reason why at most of the cities if India, the gays arrange for secret group meetings and weekend rendezvous. In the secret groups meetings gays of all age and temperaments come together, express them selves, make new friends, companions and life partners and take solace in the fact that they are not alone but others as well like them also present and grappling with the silly orthodoxy of the society in this big bad world of straights.
While a lot of the activity is in Delhi, Mumbai and Kolkkata, there are echoes in smaller towns and cities. Support is also coming from outside the gay community.
It's also here that activists like Shaleen Rakesh enter the picture. An engineer-MBA, S. Rakesh turned his back on a promising corporate career after stints with several blue-chip firms to do what he does now. S. Rakesh illustrates the need for spreading awareness among the gay community about HIV and AIDS. Son of the noted Hindi writer Mohan Rakesh, Shaleen believes the changing cultural scenario, satellite TV and the emerging middle class sensibility, which allows people to be seen individuals with their own desires, has resulted is a strong spurt in activity among Indian gays.
"Why should people's right be violated just because they are homosexual?" Wonders Shaleen. Whose besides demanding for men like himself what are very basic human rights.
Citing examples of how apathetic the system is towards those who are part of the struggle, Rakesh talks of Lucknow where the police and the judiciary played havoc with the lives of a small group of men from Bharosa, an NGO working to raise awareness about AIDS and HIV.
At the other end of the social spectrum, the diplomatic crowd has it's fair share of gays. It's
implications for a homophobic society like India are immense. Our social hypocrisy drives those with alternate life style to seek avenues of self-expression under cover of secrecy. But many others have began to come out in the open.
READER'S REVIEWS (5) DISCLAIMER: STORYMANIA DOES NOT PROVIDE AND IS NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR REVIEWS. ALL REVIEWS ARE PROVIDED BY NON-ASSOCIATED VISITORS, REGARDLESS OF THE WAY THEY CALL THEMSELVES.
"it is the encouraging works of the author and other people he mentiones that the gay community is getting some kind of visibility and acceptance, though we have a long way to go. " -- wicks, mumbai, ms, india.
"Thanks for writing article no gays. Your article is nice and I love to read it. Kunal, Delhi.India" -- kunal.
"As a gay guy here in NYC, USA, I feel your pain and hope that things improve there in India for you. Although things for gays here are a lot better than that of India, there is always room for improvement." -- Jeffrey.
"Great article! You really opened up my mind to the other suffering peoples in the world. I thought we had it bad here. I am very outraged period by human beings attitude towards gays. Tolerance isn't acceptance." -- Danny.
"man, this aint no essay, its a piece of shit writing. we are not here to read news, but original thoughts. in addition, homosexuality is a peversion period. no other high level animal species practices it. we live twisted lives in an unnatural world and that is creating gays, among other deviant groups." -- sunny, DC, DC, USA.
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